Dreams about my boyfriend cheating..

[Shellyfayexo]

Heya guys, i need your support please..
Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months, i broke up with him for a week (just a break)and i heard he was speaking to different girls..
and i was about to get back with him :( :( ..
soo.. i had an augument with him about it, he was explaining its no-one its just his cousin..
so i took him back..but he wasnt as close as we were and it really upset me :/
i pulled his phone out of his pocket and there was his cousin (1text,i can tell because she had the same second name) and another girl with about over 10 texts... but i didnt read them because he snatch it back..
and ever since ive had about 5 nightmares about him cheating...there not normal dreams.. but there about him cheating..
Does anyone have any ideas that will help me forget (hes on holiday right now btw)



P.S i hope ive put this in the right section :D

[_Omaticaya_]

I see you Shelly, and feel very sorry for you... I'd love to help, but I can't think how, all I can suggest, is, since you're a great person, you definitely don't deserve to suffer like this, for ANYONE. I can't really judge, but just don't let love destroy yourslef, because if it's how you described now, there's not much love but just doubt... And don't let him play with you... If you're not sure, sit him down, and talk clearly about it, if not, think if all this is worth it for this guy... Just, I don't want to see Any of my AF fellow friends sad, It'll all fix in the end, with him or without him, as long as you're happy I hope I helped at least a tiny little bit ma tsmukè Have a good night sleep over it, I see you

[Emil]

I think those would be nightmares, not dreams.

[Druless]

I understand, in the complete opposite manner of how you feel, Shelly. Back a while ago, almost every girl I'd feel trustful enough to date, it'd be like 7wks till I figure out that they've been cheating on me from the get-go. Really pisses me off, people like that. But, in your case, I would have to agree with what _Omaticaya_ said. Sit him down and talk to him about it. Lock the door and throw away the key if you have to(be pretty amusing if you did). In most cases, it's okay to doubt, but don't accuse him yet, unless those two are actually his cousins; or maybe he's one of those few lucky guys who actually have girls that are his friends and nothing else, like on those cheesy nickolodeon shows.
I'm sorry, but this is as much as I'm able to help you with. Usually, it was pretty clear if my girlfriends in the past were cheating on me, so I never had to deal with one that might, or might not, be cheating. If all else fails, hire the people from that other show, Cheaters. :D

[Wameyn]

I've found if you don't fully trust the person for whatever reason it's best to let them go or else youll just worry yourself sick. I hope things get better for you and soon.

[Shellyfayexo]

Thankyou everyone and yes as soon as i contact with him then i'll sit him down and talk to him..and i dont think he really likes me no more:'(
i think he knows that i think hes cheating on me.. but i dont think hes doing anything about it:(
Thankyou everyone.. your soo kind and helpful!!!

[Ahoragi]

i've found if you don't fully trust the person for whatever reason it's best to let them go or else youll just worry yourself sick. I hope things get better for you and soon.

this.

[Lon]

The best, longest lasting relationships survive because they work in tandem or as one. Anything short of that level of understanding leads to anxiety. Add a good dose of broken expectations, lies, mistrust and the relationship is doomed.

Sadly most relationships are "skating on thin ice" just waiting for a reason to break apart.

I'm a cynical old guy, well, 47, been divorced twice, and will never - ever marry again. I lack the needed ability to trust any partner completely. It's stems from having an alcoholic old man who's idea of parenting consisted of downing a bottle. It's pushed in deeply by a mother who was checked out all the time.

As a teen, I could do whatever I felt like, whenever I wanted, and that ruined my deep emotional relationship building skills. This comes from my therapist, and without an understanding of ones self, I can never heal.

Most men sadly are only as faithful as their opportunities.

Most women seek a deep emotional fulfillment that most men simply do not know how to provide.

Add in any anxiety, broken expectations, lies, mistrust, and you're wasting your time.

On a lighter note, there is a partner for everyone. The question is, do you really have the patience to wait for him to arrive?

[Wameyn]

On a lighter note, there is a partner for everyone. The question is, do you really have the patience to wait for him to arrive?

It's hard to wait...I've met many girls, more often than not they turned out to be a different person then who I thought they were at first, although some were really good people, but I have yet to meet the one I would truly want to call my wife and I'm 29. It's hard sometimes, but I'm going to try my hardest to get it right the first time.

I think if he cares about you as much as you do him he will put forth effort to resolve this quickly with you. If he doesn't well then you have a pretty good answer to your questions, even if it's not the one you want. If I cared about a girl and she thought I was cheating I'd be glad to prove I wasnt. If I didnt care I wouldnt prove I didnt and wouldnt care to speak with her about it.

This board is a great place, we dont have to see eye to eye on everything, and we shouldn't that would be so boring, and when it comes down to the nitty gritty theres a lot of awesome people who will show support for each other.

[_Omaticaya_]

How are you now Shelly? hope you've fixed your problem