Helping others "See"

[Blue Abyssinian]

Hey dear Blue, welcome back

Hah! I told you I'll be back. Just to share some thoughts. What you write about us humans being sinners is certainly true, Ma'O. We are. Some of us are aware of it, most are not. And I have to be honest: when it comes to human beings, I have a tendency to think deep black, not pink. That's why, indeed, no one should be better than others.

As a matter of fact, I don't think that people who inspire others are better than the rest. They are just as human & weak & have their imperfections. In some areas though, they are just more experienced and balanced than others, life itself taught & matured them. They don't feel the need to preach, by the way, because they are mostly not aware of others seeing them as an inspiration. They just are who they are. But to some of us, their example can be like a torch in the night, illuminating the path towards personal growth.

To give you an example: some years ago, I met a person who - in my eyes – was a great communicator. He didn't say much, you'd rather see him listening to others carefully, and you'd rather see him asking a question than reeling off his views to everyone, interested or not. But when he DID open his mouth to say something, it was spot-on. Short, crisp, clear. And very conscious. I wanted to communicate like him, I found it great, while other people thought he was a shy guy and wanted him to speak more. That's the good thing about inspiration: was might be an example to me, doesn't necessarily have to be one for others.

Anyway, he'll never know, but he had quite an impact on my way of communicating. Thanks to him, I've grown a bit as a human being. He's not even aware of it, I worked with him only for a short period of time & never talked to him about it, and I'm pretty aware of the fact that he had a lot of less charming traits. He's human after all *lol*.

However, that is what I mean with being an example for others without teaching & preaching. And therefore I still believe that you might very well have inspired someone you've met in your life, without even knowing it. And now, I'd rather hurry before I'll ramble on and on and on...

[_Omaticaya_]

^Thankyou for your post ma Tsmukè

Aye, nice one, I know exactly what you mean... I think that everyone is just so different, and I know how I am, I think I'm tangled in my own pride, and the only person I want to be inspired from, is ME, ****ing Me yeah, that's why I hate myself but can't help it, my whole life is a battle against myself trying to prove to be the best to myself and others, and things like that, and generally I do it because of so much hate towards other arrogant people, or for things I suffered for in the past, and like to prove them wrong and give them payback. It's true, hate eats you inside, but I get a good meal of self esteem sometimes too you know... I think sometimes I become those people even though I don't want to... :/ So generally, I don't like 'show offs', but I like what you talk about, silence, observation, admiration, in secret, have your own personal growth.
Anyhow, I DEFINITELY better stop with my rambling, while yours, was truly enjoyable and full of meaning, Irayo for your words dear Blue, Best Wishes

[Blue Abyssinian]

Please tell me you weren't serious when you said you hate yourself, Ma'Dear. It makes me a bit sad even. Remember, the person you refer to as ****ing ME is able to dream & feel deeply. You wouldn't be here at AF otherwise, right? Well Ma'Tsukan, fight your battles as long as you remember to smile at least once each day.Kìyevame, eylan.

[_Omaticaya_]

Please tell me you weren't serious when you said you hate yourself, Ma'Dear. It makes me a bit sad even. Remember, the person you refer to as ****ing ME is able to dream & feel deeply. You wouldn't be here at AF otherwise, right? Well Ma'Tsukan, fight your battles as long as you remember to smile at least once each day.Kìyevame, eylan.

Damn... You're one of those sweeties... *embarassed* You're way too kind to me... And I definitely don't deserve anything, and sadly, yeah, I mostly hate myself for many reasons... But hey, enough of this, this isn't a thread for me to spoil and rant about my life... So sorry for even bringing it up Blue.

Irayo to you Ma dear Blue, So much <3 God bless you <3