TRUE FRIENDS...you really find out who they are!

[Miss Tammie]

WOW... someone whom I knew from high school years ago who I thought was a friend and a nice person overall, went and posted a comment on my wall on FACEBOOK. Well those of you on FACEBOOK who know me and my page are well aware of my love for AVATAR obviously.

This person who for one thing never really talks to me much anyways posted a comment under a post I put up this morning. It was a picture of Jake from the CE and I was wishing all my brothers and sisters a good morning and to have a good Monday basically. (I do that everyday first thing in the mornings by the way)

I just now went to my FB and was totally surprised that out of the blue (pardon the pun) she posted something that in my opinion was completely unnecessary and uncalled for under that post of Jake and made a comment about the movie. If anything I respect others, their opinions, their beliefs, interests, etc and hope they would in return respect mine. I never push anything on anyone because I HAVE respect and give respect to everyone regardless of what I believe, don't believe or what I like or don't like.

I am very disappointed in this person in what she did and I can't believe that this person whom I also thought was my friend, could deliberately be so rude. No only am I disappointed but I am hurt by her lack of respect. I could never do that to anyone, make a rude comment and then post it for all to see, but then again that is not my nature and the person I AM. It's not the comment so much but it is the fact that all my friends LOVE AVATAR along with myself and that she would just post something like that and knowing this fact. Well, I guess you really find out everyone's true colors eventually. Regardless though, I don't care what people think or say, to hell with the haters as I don't have time for them anyways. :nangry::angry:

This is what she said:

"I HATED that movie!! Sorry if you liked it...but I did NOT!!!!

[Eternal Enigma]

A lot of the time people are more likely to say what they’re thinking online rather than face to face because not being face to face isn’t as personal. People often say things online they would never say in person. Facebook causes many friendships to end and has caused many relationships to end as well. People feel too comfortable typing their thoughts without thinking about what they’re saying or what it could mean to those who read it.

I’ve also realized that Facebook gives you the illusion that these people are still a part of your life when in fact they aren’t. I have friends on my Facebook that I used to hangout with every moment of everyday just eight years ago, but now we’re complete strangers. So I take it with a grain of salt. When these people say something to me that’s inappropriate or hurtful I don’t take it seriously because they don’t know me anymore. Then I realize the truth... they didn't know me then either.

[Replica]

Enternal Enigma couldn't have summed it up better. I love Facebook but at the same time, I hate it. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

[tm20]

-___- i hate that, just the typical example of people who voice their opinion for the sake of it even if they weren't asked to, if it was positive i don't see a probem but when it's negative you just want to tell them to STFU. well not to worry because that's only 1 friend out of the many you have :nsmile:

[prowler]

"I HATED that movie!! Sorry if you liked it...but I did NOT!!!!

People should keep things like this for themselves...

[Fko Lrrtok]

Yes I would take it like a grain of salt Miss Tammie, If that person said it only to get a reaction from you, because they are aware how much you love Avatar, then their actions speak more about themselves than you.
Most other of your other friends probably thought it was a bit unnecessary as well, I'd guess.

[MarkD]

TBH your true friends will respect your opinion, even if they don't like the same things you do. They'll be more polite about it, but still honest. I am like that to friends.

[Ja'k Dawsiin]

i agree with everyone's comments. i have friends who get mad that i don't reply to them on FB very often,as i am not on there very much,in fact,rarely. i find FB too intrusive on my privacy and too time-consuming when i do get on. i have been very busy in my job lately,as spring is the busiest part of the year for what i do,and pretty much all of my internetz time is devoted to AF and my company email. i agree that true friends will still respect your opinions and things you like,even if they themselves do not share your opinion and desires,and vice versa.

[Shellyfayexo]

People should keep things like this for themselves...

That what i was thinking , they should.

[FoxGhost]

Honestly? At most i see a carelessly worded statement.Opinions that differ.Nothing that i would get worked up about.Life's too short for petty things like that.With things like these my sig is a good guideline on how to handle them.Works for me at least.

[Emil]

Meh..That's nothing to break up a friendship over, It's not like she said "that movie sucks and you're pathetic for liking it."

[Miss Tammie]

Irayo ma smukan si smuke. I appreciate all your kind thoughts and support. Believe me, I may have overreacted on this yesterday but today was a new day and I am over it basically putting it behind me. Just a typical "skxwang sky person" and not worth my time. Of course my first reaction was to "let her hear it" but I bit my tongue and blew it off, be the bigger and better person.

I am on Facebook maybe a total of 5 minutes a day if that and believe me I know all about the "fakeness and drama", trust me. I am no stranger to "the drama" that plays out online. LOL I know who my "TRUE BLUE" friends are and I know those friends accept me and all my craziness and love me for who I am and what I love. I am a very confident person and know who I am and don't care about all the crap from others. The most important thing to me is what makes me happy and what I enjoy. Eywa bless you guys, I love my AVATAR family! :nlove:

[Sanjwale]

atleast I can say one thing about you: you are amazing. you respect others with their opinion. I try it also but still if I don't like somebody I still try to "do" something.

about your friend, just let him be. it is a opinion of him. but I agree he could say WITHOUT CAPITALS AND IT WOULD HELP ALLOT I THINK.

we all love blue :nlove: isn't it neytiri then it is jake :ntongue:

[Lon]

TBH your true friends will respect your opinion, even if they don't like the same things you do. They'll be more polite about it, but still honest. I am like that to friends.

MarkD is correct. Others have also noted how careless people can behave online when all the personal interaction is gone. I should add that Facebook is like a double edged sword, sometimes when using it you end up cutting yourself.

[Miss Tammie]

Well, something quite amazing happened when I got on FACEBOOK today. I got an apology from my friend who made the comment on my post on Monday. She said she felt very bad for the post and didn't realize what she had actually done.

I thought that was really nice of her to do and of course I accepted her apology and let her how much I appreciated it. I never did say one thing to her in regards to that post on Monday as I just wanted it to "lay there" and hope for the best outcome and sure enough the outcome paid off in a positive way.

I guess sometimes it pays to have good friends who care about you, that will stick up for you and good friends who can recognize when they make a mistake no matter how small or how big the issue may have been. I appreciate all my blue clan for their input as I actually learned a little life lesson which is always a good thing. Eywa ngahu ma smukan si smuke. Nga yawne lu oer.:nlove:

[_Omaticaya_]

I see you Miss Tammie, i'm sorry about your story :( And i can only agree with you about haters, and fake friends that don't really care about you, or play around with you... I mean how can I not hate them... And if you wanna know, i had a lot of stories like that, and now i became a different person, i don't really trust anyone, and i mean ANYone, i gotta admit, it's better to be lonely sometimes, the only friends I got, are good :) For example, the thing that makes me the MOST ANGRY, and a thing i learnt to never do again in my life, is telling someone, a 'friend', you have a crush on someone. OMG, this guy, my 'friend' added her on facebook out of the blue one day!, (was like nearly a year ago, i anint on facebook since then) , and started chatting to her and talking about me! I mean, WTF, i got so pissed when i found out, and he's like, 'i just wanna help you out', i'm like dude, FUK YOU!, mind your own business! So embarassing, this guy just adds a random girl and start gossiping about me, and telling her stuff,I mean listen to this, somedays, at school, he comes and says like 'Hey she says hello', or 'did you get a text from her, because she said she would' i'm like, dude WTF!!!, if ive finsihed with her, how you gonna keep talking to her and stuff and lying, he's never even met her, 0.0 he's fukin crazy... what is wrong with people, damn... Playing with others feelings, damn i better stop cuz im getting angry again only writing this story down... Sorry about this rant... lol, Anyway, Keep being what you are Tammie, because you sound great as you are, and as the great T.I. says 'Never mind what haters say, ignore 'em till they fade away!' Peace out :)

[Miss Tammie]

I see you Miss Tammie, i'm sorry about your story :( And i can only agree with you about haters, and fake friends that don't really care about you, or play around with you... I mean how can I not hate them... And if you wanna know, i had a lot of stories like that, and now i became a different person, i don't really trust anyone, and i mean ANYone, i gotta admit, it's better to be lonely sometimes, the only friends I got, are good :) For example, the thing that makes me the MOST ANGRY, and a thing i learnt to never do again in my life, is telling someone, a 'friend', you have a crush on someone. OMG, this guy, my 'friend' added her on facebook out of the blue one day!, (was like nearly a year ago, i anint on facebook since then) , and started chatting to her and talking about me! I mean, WTF, i got so pissed when i found out, and he's like, 'i just wanna help you out', i'm like dude, FUK YOU!, mind your own business! So embarassing, this guy just adds a random girl and start gossiping about me, and telling her stuff,I mean listen to this, somedays, at school, he comes and says like 'Hey she says hello', or 'did you get a text from her, because she said she would' i'm like, dude WTF!!!, if ive finsihed with her, how you gonna keep talking to her and stuff and lying, he's never even met her, 0.0 he's fukin crazy... what is wrong with people, damn... Playing with others feelings, damn i better stop cuz im getting angry again only writing this story down... Sorry about this rant... lol, Anyway, Keep being what you are Tammie, because you sound great as you are, and as the great T.I. says 'Never mind what haters say, ignore 'em till they fade away!' Peace out :)

I see you _Omaticaya_. :nsmile:Thank you so much for your story and am sorry you had to deal with so many issues in that area. It's pretty sad when a friend will do that to you and I know what you mean about not trusting. It took me a long, long time to trust people after what my ex-husband did to me 9 years ago but I stayed strong, left him, divorced him and moved on with my life. What he did to me is something no one should ever have to endure in a marriage.( I caught him in the "throws of passion" with another women). After something like that you are never the same again and trying to trust anyone is very difficult but with time things slowly get better. You may not think it will, but it does.

I hope you will be able to trust people again atleast a few people in your life. I never believe or trust anything on social network sites like Facebook, Twitter or Myspace. Like Lon said here in my post:
Facebook is like a double edged sword, sometimes when using it you end up cutting yourself. Very true and great advice.

That is very true so try not to get to sucked up in that place(FB) and all the drama. I will say it is really nice to have such fantastic friends here on AF and TOS who have been nothing but the greatest friends I have ever made. Everyone is so respectful of one another and how we can all lean on each in other when things are not going so well in our real lives. Remember your "true blue" friends are always here for you and stay strong! Irayo ma tsmukan. Eywa ngahu. :nwink:

[_Omaticaya_]

I see you _Omaticaya_. :nsmile:Thank you so much for your story and am sorry you had to deal with so many issues in that area. It's pretty sad when a friend will do that to you and I know what you mean about not trusting. It took me a long, long time to trust people after what my ex-husband did to me 9 years ago but I stayed strong, left him, divorced him and moved on with my life. What he did to me is something no one should ever have to endure in a marriage.( I caught him in the "throws of passion" with another women). After something like that you are never the same again and trying to trust anyone is very difficult but with time things slowly get better. You may not think it will, but it does.

I hope you will be able to trust people again atleast a few people in your life. I never believe or trust anything on social network sites like Facebook, Twitter or Myspace. Like Lon said here in my post: Very true and great advice.

That is very true so try not to get to sucked up in that place(FB) and all the drama. I will say it is really nice to have such fantastic friends here on AF and TOS who have been nothing but the greatest friends I have ever made. Everyone is so respectful of one another and how we can all lean on each in other when things are not going so well in our real lives. Remember your "true blue" friends are always here for you and stay strong! Irayo ma tsmukan. Eywa ngahu. :nwink:

Hi :-)) I'm really sorry and touched about your story... I mean, my stuff is just stupid teenage haters playing around with feelings, it's all about looks, clothes, money, to be the 'coolest' guy with all the girls and viceversa...damn it's so screwed up... But you've been through much worse, I See you... And yeah, i know facebook is crap, because i was one of the first people to join it, years ago, and none of my friends had it yet in Italy where i live now, when it got 'famous' here too, facebook just became a joke, it's just WASTE of time, people postin and postin, chattin and chattin, it is so FAKE, I mean, they say everything on there, and don't have the guts to say it in people's faces and stuff, and they got like hundreds of friends, they just add them to make a big number... DAMN, i swear, these things make me wild, they are so stupid and think they know it all -.- Anyhow, those times are over now for me fortunately, since i found AF, like you, i found really Incredible people, girls and guys, linked by Avatar love, and it's really lovely to know them :) And last thing, Thank you very much Miss Tammie, because you ended up conforting me =), very kind of you, Irayo. All the best :)

[Grifff]

This is what she said:

"I HATED that movie!! Sorry if you liked it...but I did NOT!!!!

i think you just over reacted, the internet is not serious business

[Sanjwale]

thinks about AF....

I don't say anything.

[MarkD]

Hmm, friends can also be honest in their views of things, even if it hurts. I've had people tell me I can be very annoying, looking back. Yes I can be. Though, oddly certain people don't mind that. Others can get quite pissed. I guess it varies from person to person. TBH I've gotten to just not being so social with others because of my behavior. I don't want to insight another argument. This is also to help people who have met others with similar behavior.

Also I've had people say they didn't like Avatar. I just shrug my shoulders. I just ignore any negativity.

[Sanjwale]

they can be but ofcourse they can say it a little bit nicer. that you know their opinion but not that they hurt you.

true friend know how to say things NORMAL against each other.